I can probably sum up what I’m about to say in one phrase: Some people want to fart in the wind, but are shocked and appalled when the wind changes quickly and their own stink returns to their noses.
I understand that we all need to vent sometimes. I’m the one that does the venting on occasion to trusted friends, and I have those that trust me to come to me for their release. Sometimes we just need someone to hear us out. That’s perfectly fine. And sometimes, we don’t necessarily want or need any feedback, pep talk, or whatever… we just need to be heard. That’s alright sometimes.
What irks the crap out of me, however, is when you have folks that want to release and vent and spew and piss and moan and whine all over the place, but RARELY want any real feedback, especially when it’s gonna tell them about themselves. Worse yet, they even cop an attitude toward you even you even attempt to interject anything unless you’re in complete agreement with them.
Maybe the reason that it gets on my nerves so much is that I expect my friends to give me some perspective, or to put me in check when I’m out of order. What a crazy notion, right?
I’m sorry… but if you’re coming sideways then don’t come blowing off steam to me and expect me to just say “yeah”, nod my head in agreement, or give any such indication that I agree with, condone, or consent to your point of view. When this is almost ALWAYS the case, you’re not really looking for a release… you’re just looking for someone to cosign and validate you in your mess. Get real and GROW UP.
Oh, and let me drop this little tidbit… if you’re always complaining about what “people” are always saying to or about you, and these “people” are really the ones that are appointed in your life to look out for your best interests, your well being, and your very SOUL… then SHUT UP AND LISTEN. They very well might be wrong in any particular instance… but at least take a doggone second to humble yourself, get your rump off of your shoulders, your nose out of the air, and HONESTLY EVALUATE YOURSELF.